Dear Kourtess-Ann,
I need some advice. There’s this guy—sweet, charming, always texting me first—but I swear, it’s like he only reaches out when he needs to vent. He tells me all about his problems, asks for my advice, and barely ever asks about me. But the second I need something? Crickets.
We’re not dating, but sometimes it feels like we are—except I don’t get any of the perks, just the emotional labor. Is he into me, or am I just his unpaid therapist?
Sincerely,
Wanting More
Dear Wanting More,
Oh, love. Well you sure ain’t his girlfriend—emotional support cushion at best. Trust me, that is not the vibe.
Let’s get this straight—when a bloke likes you, he don’t just dump his problems on you like a broken record and then disappear the second you need something. No, no, no. That man would be showing up. Asking about you. Taking you out. Making you feel desired, not just convenient.
Now, you wanna know if he’s into you? Simple test, love: Stop being available. Don’t be his cozy little therapy couch. See if he sticks around when you stop solving his problems. If he does? Maybe there’s something real there. If he don’t? Congratulations, you just got your free time back.
Either way, you’re no one’s unpaid emotional maid, love. Time to pack up the feelings and move the hell on.
Ropefully yours,
Kourtess Ann
